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Hero image for the Second Banana Seattle city landing page. Dark editorial design with a gold rule across the top. Left column reads 'Seattle' in large serif type with 'Hides.' in italic gold beneath, followed by the tagline: One of the most active kink communities in the country. The Seattle Freeze stops at the bedroom door. Second Banana is where the private life gets specific. A peeled banana illustration in gold tones sits centre composition. Right panel shows three statistics: Seattle ranks top five nationally for FetLife membership, one of the largest active kink communities in the US; The Wet Spot, Seattle's consent-forward kink community centre, has been running since 1996, nearly thirty years of institutional infrastructure; Seattle's tech workforce shows neurodivergent identification at twice the national average, the demographic most drawn to kink's explicit consent culture. Tag pills along the bottom read: BDSM, ENM, neurodivergent, rope, solo-poly, leather. Second Banana branding bottom right.

Seattle Kink & Fantasy Dating | Find Your Match | Second Banana

May 21, 2026

Seattle has one of the most active kink and ENM communities in the country. It just doesn't talk about it. Second Banana is built for exactly that — post what you want, anonymously, and find the person who's been keeping the same secret.

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Hero image for the Second Banana New Orleans city landing page. Dark editorial design with a gold rule across the top. Left column reads 'New Orleans' in large serif type with 'Celebrates.' in italic gold beneath, followed by the tagline: Three hundred years of permission. The oldest kink and leather community in the South. Second Banana is where it gets specific. A peeled banana illustration in gold tones sits centre composition. Right panel shows three statistics: Southern Decadence has run continuously in the French Quarter since 1972, one of the longest-running queer festivals in the US; New Orleans ranks top five nationally for leather and fetish community infrastructure including event density, institutions, and tenure; New Orleans's carnival tradition of bodily pleasure as serious business predates the American sex-positive movement by three hundred years. Tag pills along the bottom read: leather, kink, queer, fetish, exhibitionist, ENM. Second Banana branding bottom right.

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New Orleans Kink & Fantasy Dating | Find Your Match | Second Banana

May 19, 2026

New Orleans has always known that pleasure is serious business. Second Banana is where the city's kink, ENM, and queer community finds its people — honestly, anonymously, without apology.

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Hero image for the Second Banana Asheville city landing page. Dark editorial design with a gold rule across the top. Left column reads 'Asheville' in large serif type with 'Endures.' in italic gold beneath, followed by the tagline: The South's best-kept secret. A mountain town running one of the most active kink and ENM scenes in the region. Second Banana is where it gets honest. A peeled banana illustration in gold tones sits centre composition. Right panel shows three statistics: Asheville ranks top three nationally for FetLife membership per capita, remarkable for a city of 94,000; Asheville has the highest LGBTQ+ population density of any city in the American South; 12% of Asheville's workforce is in the creative sector, one of the highest ratios of any US city its size. Tag pills along the bottom read: kink, queer, ENM, BDSM, solo-poly, switch. Second Banana branding bottom right.

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Asheville Kink & Fantasy Dating | Find Your Match | Second Banana

May 18, 2026

Asheville is the South's best-kept secret — a mountain town running one of the most active kink, ENM, and queer scenes in the region. Second Banana is where it gets honest.

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Hero image for the Second Banana Boulder city landing page. Dark editorial design with a gold rule across the top. Left column reads 'Boulder' in large serif type with 'Surprises.' in italic gold beneath, followed by the tagline: It looks like a wellness retreat. It runs like one of the most ENM-dense cities in the country. Second Banana is where the real Boulder shows up. A peeled banana illustration in gold tones sits centre composition. Right panel shows three statistics: Boulder County has the highest self-reported ENM rate of any US metro area per CU research data; 60% plus of Boulder's somatic and tantra community overlaps with the kink community — same values, same people, different vocabulary; Denver's kink and ENM community is 40 minutes away, effectively doubling the accessible dating pool. Tag pills along the bottom read: ENM, conscious-kink, solo-poly, tantra, rope, RA. Second Banana branding bottom right.

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Boulder Kink & Fantasy Dating | Find Your Match | Second Banana

May 18, 2026

Boulder looks like a wellness retreat. It runs like one of the most ENM-dense, kink-curious cities in the country. Second Banana is where the real Boulder posts what it actually wants. Slug: /boulder-kink-dating

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Hero image for the Second Banana Austin city landing page. Dark editorial design with gold rule across the top. Left column reads 'Austin' in large serif type with 'Creates.' in italic gold beneath, followed by the tagline: Half a million new residents. A creative class that questions everything. Austin's kink and ENM scene is bigger than the city admits. Second Banana is where it gets honest. A peeled banana illustration in gold tones sits centre composition. Right panel shows three statistics: Austin ranks in the top ten US cities for kink community growth 2020 to 2024; 38% of Austin adults aged 25 to 40 identify as LGBTQ+ or questioning; the Austin ENM community has grown over 200% since 2019 per Meetup and FetLife data. Tag pills along the bottom read: kink, ENM, queer, BDSM, rope, age-gap. Second Banana branding bottom right.

Austin Kink & Fantasy Dating | Find Your Match | Second Banana

May 17, 2026

Austin's kink, ENM, and queer dating scene is bigger than the city admits. Second Banana is where you post what you actually want — anonymously, honestly, without performing vanilla.

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Hero image for the Second Banana Portland city landing page. Dark editorial design with a gold rule across the top. Left column reads 'Portland' in large serif type with 'Knows.' in italic gold beneath, followed by the tagline: One of America's most sex-positive cities. The people who share your tags are here. You just haven't found each other yet. A peeled banana illustration in gold tones sits in the centre of the composition. Right panel shows three statistics: 30–50% of kink community members display autistic traits versus 1–2% in the general population; 35% identify as bisexual versus approximately 2% in the general population; Portland ranks in the top five US cities for non-monogamous participation per Kinsey Institute data. Tag pills along the bottom read: kink, ENM, queer, BDSM, neurodivergent, solo-poly. Second Banana branding bottom right.

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Portland Kink & Fantasy Dating | Find Your Match | Second Banana

May 16, 2026

Portland has one of the most active kink, ENM, and queer dating communities in the US. Second Banana is where you post what you actually want — anonymously, honestly, without the cringe.

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