Orgasms

Article header image for Second Banana's orgasm guide. Deep violet-black background with the headline "The Orgasm." in large pale lavender type, followed by "What It Actually Is." and "Why the Gap Exists." in italic magenta. Descriptor reads "The physiology, the gap, anorgasmia, faking it, and why pleasure is the better goal anyway." A warm amber-gold banana curves across the right half behind a vertical magenta rule. Taglines read "A Reflex, Not an Achievement" and "The Gap Is Not Anatomical."

Orgasm: What It Actually Is, Why the Gap Exists, and What Actually Helps | Second Banana

July 19, 2026

The orgasm gap is real, documented, and largely explainable. So is anorgasmia. So is faking it and what it costs. Here’s the honest account of orgasm — the physiology, the psychology, the gap, and what the research says about closing it.

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The Butt: An Appreciation, a Guide, and a Very Good Case for Reconsidering | Second Banana

April 30, 2026

The anus has more nerve endings than almost anywhere else on the body. This is not an accident. A genuinely useful, anatomy-first guide to anal pleasure — for all bodies, all genders, and the ADHD people who already know about all-day plug wear.

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Aftercare: What It Is, Why It Matters, How to Do It | Second Banana

March 26, 2026

Aftercare is what happens when the scene ends — and it might be the most intimate part of any encounter. Here's the full guide to why it matters, what people actually need, and how to negotiate it before things get intense.

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What Is Squirting, Really? The Science — And Why It's Fine | Second Banana

March 26, 2026

Is squirting pee? Mostly yes — and completely fine. Here's what the research actually says about squirting vs. female ejaculation, what urea actually means, and why the shame was never warranted.

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Orgasm: What It Actually Is, Why the Gap Exists, and What Actually Helps | Second Banana

The Butt: An Appreciation, a Guide, and a Very Good Case for Reconsidering | Second Banana

Aftercare: What It Is, Why It Matters, How to Do It | Second Banana

What Is Squirting, Really? The Science — And Why It's Fine | Second Banana

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